WHERE DO YOU STAND? MARRY NOW OR LATER

It is no wonder that every young and beautiful girl needs a home to call hers, in other words, a shareholder in the business of home with the husband. As such, one would hear statements like “if I marry eh, I can’t tolerate this and that in my husband house, I will enjoy my husband oh, my husband dares not cheats on me” and so it goes on. Such comments start coming out as soon as the girl noticed that her age mate, classmates, colleagues, etc. are getting married, so she begins to compare the already married to how she hopes to make her own.

Are you wondering why all these? Well, the answer is not a mystery, because I am a girl child who aspires to be a great daughter, wonderful sister, adorable wife and a beloved mother to all concerned. As I wake up each day to the reality that there is no one to call mother, I only console myself with the words that same day, I can be a mother to another of God’s creation.

In the line with this as a girl child, I have always made “family a highly placed priority as that is the only institution that is primarily to my happiness”. Most people will ask me, “You are still very young, beautiful, intelligent etc., why would you want to cage yourself into marriage” I don’t see marriage/ family that way. Yes, there are challenges especially the young couples trying to cope up with the fact that they are stuck to each other forever, plans will change, actions to accommodate the other and so on.

Though not old, but enough to realize that relationship between a boy and a girl this era do not go without sex, most often, it happens to be a jolt of compensation from the lady. From a few adventures, all proved the same and I only had to be more rigid in my decision. I should not deceive myself into any relationship with a no-sex before marriage notion because it all has been failing.

Well, there might still be few out there (I mean the guy) who can at least respect such opinion from their dates, maybe, but rather than playing and fooling around only to be left on the roadside. Please, dear sister, grab the available good vehicle in front of you or you will have to trek or wait for the time in desperation. Be wise Family first!

By Queeneth Nkoro Esseng