BEING A LADY

            Being a lady has to do with choice.  It does not necessarily mean she has to be between a certain age-grades before she can be called a ‘lady’.  A lady is a woman who is refined, polite and well-spoken.  She is an elegant and good-hearted woman who uses her femininity in the most dignified and endearing way possible.  Before she is called a ‘lady’, she possesses the attitude of elegance, courteousness and self-respect.

            An elegant, gracious loving woman is given a title ‘Lady’ because she uses etiquette and diplomacy in both public and private matters.  She has a firm control on her emotions and conducts herself with wisdom, using discernment and patience in all things.  The humbleness and assertiveness are superb.  She is beautiful from within.  She dresses modestly without drawing much attention to herself and especially not to her feminine charms (attractions). A lady is tasteful, strategic and careful; she recognizes the importance of not overworking herself or becoming solely reliant on herself.  Elegance does not only have to do with manners but also appearance.  A lady is clean both inside and outside; she is beautifully presented and approachable.  She is stylish with brain.

            She is polite, refined and well-spoken.  She is not passive but provides a positive approach to every good or bad situation.  She is positive and respectful.  With her faults and mistakes, she rises up in humility and perseverance.  She apologizes after realizing a mistake or causing offence.  She is humble.  She assists the destitute (poor) because she is humble.  Her humility comes with forgiveness and she does not seek ill will in her heart or with her tongue.

            She is lovable and has self-respect and respects others.  She is principled with essence.  She minds her choice of words.  She is reserved.  Discrimination and prejudice are not the qualities she possesses, she loves everyone and loves herself.  She avoids occasions that can vilify her personality.  She is neither ascetic nor selfish and not opinionated, as her evaluations and conclusions are based on facts, after careful observation.  She is truthful.  She is considerate and loves her partner and others.  She has a healthy sense of self-esteem.  She is not motivated by money and superficiality.  She is not afraid of life and wakes up every day to work.  She is beautiful.

            “Being a female is a matter of birth, being a woman is a matter of age, but being a lady is a matter of choice” A lady: “She is a servant and serves joyfully yet knows it is from the beauty of her heart not from obligation.  She is not pretentious or ostentatious.  She is charismatic and has learned the art of persuasion.  She is self-controlled, poised, charming, accepting of herself and others in a balanced light, merciful and tactful when dealing with situations that render others or her in a negative light, and uncompromising with her value.  She is careful with her choice of words, soft-spoken, slow and clears in her speech.  She is compassionate and passionate but reserved in how and where she displays her passion.  She is not promiscuous and unfaithful to her partner, and any agreement they have is not broken through deceit but rather through honesty and with delicacy if it is to change.  She knows she stumbles and is not perfect, but perfection isn’t her goal, however, she works towards being the best possible version of herself.  She is feminine beyond a shadow of “doubt”

            Any female is a woman or will be a woman but being a ‘lady’ takes choice and work. It isn’t inborn but practised.  It is a fine art and takes focus and consideration.  Make a choice to be a Lady!