Saturday, 1 February 2020

LOVE TO BE INDEPENDENT


Have you ever thought of being a woman of your own?  Making an important decisions on your own?  Paying your own bills?  If you are determined and hardworking, trust me, you can be the most important person you want to be, a happy and independent woman.  Meanwhile, to be independent takes vitality, courage, strength, commitment, and hard work.
            Independent women are strong, they are always in-charge and they know exactly what they want.  But it takes a whole lot to be in-charge.  To be an independent woman, you have to have your own life.  Don’t spend all your time pining over someone or something.  Have your own hobbies, goals, aspirations, and more.  Be a person in this world and not just another fly on the wall.  You have to literally provide everything for yourself and not rely on anyone else for money, a home or even happiness.  You will agree with me that, nowadays men don’t want a liability as a partner but an asset, so you need to be an asset to be able to keep ‘him’ well.  Independent women don’t just sit around and wait for something to be handed to them, they work harder than they should, in order to achieve greatness and provide for themselves.
            Believing in fairy-tales isn’t what a woman who wants to be independent does.  You must know that real life isn’t like the fairy-tales.  Real-life is hard work and takes a lot of trial and error to get things right.  Don’t let your fantasies take over you or you’ll end up in disappointment.  You need to know what you want and go for it.  Independent women don’t sit around and wait for an opportunity to come knocking at the door, but they bulldoze through opportunities door and take what’s theirs.  Also, learn to deal with problems on your own.  While it’s okay to ask advice and have someone weigh in on what they think you should do, never put your problems onto someone else and make them feel like it’s their job to fix.  Your problems are only yours and you should act as such.
            However, as there are good people that will inspire and motivate you so also are bad people that will discourage and bring you low.  Haters are everywhere.  They are online, walking down the street, in school, in your work place and even around you.  You can never escape them.  But if you want to be the kind of woman you want to be, you will learn to ignore them and not let them affect you.  A strong woman will ignore critical comments without letting them affect or take down her confidence, however, constructive criticism can be very helpful.
            In conclusion, you need to have self-esteem and self-respect.  Take up principles that will help you be a better person and also don’t forget to use your time adequately and wisely.  Invest your time in doing what will benefit you positively and make you progress.  Avoid frivolous occasions, friends, and matters. Just be yourself!

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